Creating Positive Change
Creating Positive Change, Joy and Gratitude
At the beginning of each Personal Consultation your brain indicates the context or theme of the session It is an umbrella of all that is going on in your life and what needs to change to get you back on track to living the Life you are meant to.
When that theme or context is “Positive Change” it’s thrilling.
It means you have finished the unfinished business of Recuperation, gained the learnings from the process and have found the energy to apply to your life moving forward. Positive Change only comes up when you have the energy to make it happen.
Change is something we do every moment of every day. Sometimes the changes are small, some larger- all are potentially big game-changers. Sometimes we are happy to make the change, other times we don’t like it at all. We resist change. We wrestle with it . We become engaged with it and begin to believe we have no choice. That’s when the resistance has us. That’s the stress. When we believe we have No Choice.
We always have Choice. We can choose whether the change we are creating is Positive, ie. appropriate to our goals, or negative. You can ask yourself ” Is this change appropriate to my goals? Is it positive and in support of Me.” If the answer is No? Then let it go or change it so that it is.
That new car or holiday…is that in support of you? ” You betcha!” I hear you shout. Is it in support of your goals? mmmm….maybe challenging your goal to buy a home, put the kids through a school you prefer or other financial goals you have.
That friend of yours? Maybe a new friend or one that’s been around for a while. The friend that makes arrangements, then dumps you at the last minute for a better offer, you party hard around them ( to numb yourself ), the friend who never listens and who always talks about themselves, often creates a drama and leaves you embarrassed to clean it up. Is this friend positive? Nah. In Support of you? No, only themselves. In support of your goals? You have goals?!? So letting go can be another Positive Change you bring into your life making room for the new friend with similar values to you in your Life NOW.
Positive Change can bring MORE fun, is easier and life flows when we stop resisting change.
Then comes the BIG One. Are you a person who blanket manages everything to make sure that all bases are covered? You put a lot of effort into Life? Are you exhausted? Phew! Want to change that?
Positive Change is about “re-directing your abilities toward establishing positive results for the effort you put into life”. So your focus for creating Positive Change becomes laser – like. You find the way and where to put the effort to create the MOST positive results easily. Now that’s Positive Change.
I’ve seen relationships, jobs, health and finances transformed into a whole new world of positive results after Positive Change has been the theme of a Personal Consultation. Goals get got. Focus and Clarity set their laser on your Vision of Your Future and make it happen. Positively, more easily and in support of you.
5 Minute Exercise
Are their parts of your life now that give you Joy? That you are grateful for? Write them down. And how you feel. Then where you feel that warm glow in your body and breathe into it. Does it have a colour? Breathe into that too and make it intensify, grow.
Next head hold and breathe. Can you imagine the Life you are Living in 12 months time. Write it down. Can you imagine the kind of joy and gratitude you will be experiencing because you ARE LIVING it? Where do you feel it in your body? Place your hands there and breathe into it. Is there a colour? Breathe into it and intensify it. Then give yourself a 9 second hug. It helps to integrate it into your cells and your brain. And bring it back with you as you return to Present time right here, right now.
What’s the next step in your Plan? Put it in your diary on the day you plan to do it. Or do it now.
Feeling resistance and excuses and negative self-talk coming up? That’s resisting change. Even the change you REALLY want.
PS. Remember What You Focus on Grows. The scientists are proving what kinesiologists have been working with since the 1930’s. So, Focus on the Joy and Gratitude and you create MORE of it in Your Life. And that’s Living the Life You Are Meant to.
5 Minute Moment
One of my favourite 5 Minute Moment’s comes to us from the Toltec healer don Miguel Ruiz’s book The Four Agreements:
“Just do your best- in any circumstance in your life. It doesn’t matter if you are sick or tired, if you always do your best there is no way you can judge yourself. And if you don’t judge yourself there is no way you are going to suffer from guilt, blame, and self-punishment. By doing your best, you will break a big spell that you have been under.
There was a man who wanted to transcend his suffering so he went to a Buddhist temple to find a Master to help him. He went to the Master and asked, “Master, if I meditate four hours a day, how long will it take me to transcend?”
The Master looked at him and said, “If you meditate four hours a day perhaps you will transcend in ten years.”
Thinking he could do better, the man then said, “Oh Master, what if I meditated eight hours a day, how long will it take me to transcend?”
The Master looked at him and said, “If you meditate eight hours a day, perhaps you will transcend in twenty years.”
“But why will it take me longer if I meditate more?” the man asked.
The Master replied, “You are not here to sacrifice your joy or your life. You are here to live, to be happy, and to love. If you can do your best in two hours of meditation, but you spend eight hours instead, you will only grow tired, miss the point, and you won’t enjoy your life. Do your best, and perhaps you will learn no matter how long you meditate, you can live, love and be happy.”
You know I love sharing quality resources to motivate, educate and inspire.
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1. Healthy Eating
So many clients have difficulty creating new habits around their eating habits, especially when their body is reacting to the foods they enjoy. I love this article. It reminds us that eating healthily is actually about keeping our brain healthy so it can do it’s job well as the powerful control tower for all other organs and functions in our body. Read on if you want eating healthy to be easy….Dr Perlmutter, Neurologist and Author.
2. Getting the Most from Your Journalling and Writing and Ripping Exercise
Want to improve your journalling? Your “Writing and Ripping” exercise? Here’s some of the scientific proof on how it works AND suggestions to how you can increase the benefits.
Click here to read the article on Writing, from Barking Up the Wrong Tree
3. For inspiration and motivation enJOY this clip from Tim Minchin :9 Lessons on Life
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