Making the Most of Winter

 

Remember, Winter is THE time of year to ‘go within’ and discover who you truly are.

 

It’s also the time that Fears come to the surface to help you heal them and live the life you are meant to be living.

 

Especially the fears that stop you in your tracks, prevent you from moving forward, keep you stuck.

 

You and Your Fears

 

Do You Recognise these Fears?

 

Fear of Failure?

Fear of Success?

Fear of Being Found Out?

Fear of Rejection? of Not Being Liked/ Accepted?

Fear of Loss? Of Money-Lifestyle/ Of Love-Loved One/ Of Health etc

 

Sound familiar? You are in good company- these are the Top 5 Fears I assist clients to release in appointments daily so they can create the Life they want to be living.

 

Add to these fears…

 

The fear of change, eg. meeting new people or starting a new job

The fear of speaking in public or at a meeting

The fear of knowing AND asking for what you want

The fear of telling others how you feel

 

They are all fears I help clients release in appointments, and a whole lot more.

 

 

Winter is the time they come to the surface so we can no longer ignore them or distract ourselves from releasing them.

 

And Winter is the time to heal fear more easily.

 

Fear comes from a primal response in the brain. At some point you brain believed your survival was threatened and created a fear and the fear response, ie. the adrenal response to either run or fight.

 

So whether there was a lion in front of you or not your brain responded as if there was. This belief keeps you stuck at the time you created the fear, even though you have long left the ‘jungle’ and have nothing to do with lions.

 

Everyone wants Change, however few face the fears that day to day prevent them from creating the Change they desire.

 

 

So What to Do?

 

The Rewards of Change need to become greater than the fear itself.

 

And the desire to become greater than who we are needs to become more desirable than the need to hold onto the pain of fear.

 

At sometime in the past you have stepped up and out of your fears, eg. when another is in need or has required your help. You then chose to step out of your old patterns of fear to create a new and better way of living. Life rewards action.

 

However most believe that overcoming fear is a matter of ‘Man –ing Up”, “Sucking it Up” that overcoming fear is a matter of more force. In true Survival situations when your life is at risk this can be so. The brain kicks in the adrenals to force you to “Fight or Flight” so you can survive.

 

This rarely occurs in daily life and still the adrenals are reacting as if you are threatened because of all the Busy Busy Running Running no rest or recuperation lifestyle that our modern age promotes as ‘success’ and ‘living’,  which overtime if left unchecked can create adrenal burnout.

 

In Neuro-training Kinesiology we work with the healing principle that the way you think about Life affects the way you feel about Life which then affects the way you ‘do’ Life.

 

So if you are ‘doing’ high adrenal stress, lots of coffee, lots of exercise thinking you are getting fit ( those rock hard muscles you have may be hypertonic- a symptom of adrenal exhaustion) and eating on the run without sufficient rest and recuperation time – then you are going to be reacting to all of life as if you are in the jungle threatened by the lion.

 

 

Learning to centre, calm, Be Present, listen to your inner self, become your own best friend and your True Self are ways of RESPONDING to Life that takes you out of fear and into enJOYing Life.

 

This starts with making the Choice to admit to yourself that some of the choices you have made in the past are no longer supporting your long term health.

 

They have become blocks to being the happy, healthy, vibrant kind of 60, 70 or 80 year old you want to be. If you listen to older people they are often still living the fears of their youth, and accepting pain as the way life is meant to be.

 

Wrong! If you think that bad back, knee injury, or fear of others not liking you are problems now – just add 20 or 30 years to these parts of your life NOW. What we focus on we get more of (avoidance takes focus too) . Life rewards action.

 

When Australia’s top golfer Greg Norman was interviewed on Australian Story on ABC TV he was asked what was the secret to his success. He said that each night on his way to the showers he would look himself in the eye and ask “ Where are 3 ways I stuffed up today? How can I change that/ do better tomorrow?” Then get on with it.

 

Norman’s success came from a mix of intuition and his ability to take risk – knowing sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn’t. How often do you make a choice based on your’gut reaction’ knowing it may deliver the outcome you desire, something more, or not?

 

By thinking differently about your life now you will build new neural pathways in the brain that help you toward where you want to be NOW and in later life.

 

 

The Life You Are Meant to Be Living IS taking one step after another, expecting a positive outcome, letting go of what no longer works and seeking to do things differently. Better.

 

Of making the Choice to Be Present, use what you know, Connect to what You Love and RESPOND to Life.

 

And there is heroism in speaking from the heart. Communicating Your Truth. Be-ing Your Authentic Self.

 

What is important to me is You. You allow me to do what I love in Life. And that is a true gift.

 

That’s part of the reason why I love helping You to find what You Love – your work, your relationships, your health, your path – and DO it with Commitment and Purpose.

 

To help you find the energy, health, head space and sense of Be-ing to DO it. To Live the Life You are Meant to.

 

And now I can teach you HOW to Listen and ACT on the guidance of Your Inner Voice.

 

That takes Life to a whole NEW level.

 

 

Be kind and true to You,

Deb