ARGGHHH! Stress!

 

Remember the last time you felt really stressed? When you felt “out of control”, “crazy”, “OTT” , that the Stress had your life hostage and you’d ” lost control of your life.”

 

When in Stress we feel outside forces have railroaded or derailed our life… whether it be the Boss, the economy, “the Ex-“, the Partner, the Family, the neighbours, the weather.

 

What we forget while we are in this Stress is that it is a test of who we truly are.

 

Who We Are is not only about who we are in our Best- and- Kodak moments –like when we are helping a friend, being patient with the kids/ parents or attending a fundraiser.

 

Who We Are is also about when Life tests or challenges us. When the traffic keeps you late and someone cuts in, when you have left your eft-card, cash and credit card at home and have just processed 1 month of groceries at the check-out, when you drop and smash your phone by accident or your computer hard drive crashes.

 

There are bigger life challenges- loss of a loved one, having to move house, breakup of a relationship, losing your job, the threat or diagnosis of a life threatening disease. Or find yourself on holiday in a warzone.

 

Whether you react (act out) or respond ( a centred space) is up to you.

 

It is driven by the role you have given yourself when You define Your Character as you write the story of your life…the work you do, where you live, the type of food you like, the clothes you wear, the music you listen to and the people you hang with.

 

Whether you create Your character as cool and sophisticated, loving and fun, intense and moody will determine how you react or respond to these unplanned, unscripted awful moments in Life.

 

It will determine the times you choose to be miserable, cranky or belligerent and whether you accept this as a passing mood that you can change or decide instead there is someone to blame.

 

And it determines the times you choose to enjoy life, be your best self and know that you are enough already.

 

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Because… You are the Author of Your Life.

 

Are you unhappy with who that character you have created is? The one looking back at you from the mirror awkward and uncertain?

 

It’s important to remember You always have the Choice to change the script, develop the character: what you do, what’s important to you and HOW you react or respond to Life.

 

Moment to moment you make those choices, creating the life you can look back on at 60 or 70 or 80 or 90 years of age.

Decide NOW….do you want to look back with regret or fond memories and fulfillment?

 

You can start by asking these questions:

 

Is my life well lived?

Am I loved? Do I love well ?

Am I doing all I came to do?

Am I proud of the character I have created?

Can I look myself squarely in the mirror , comfortably and directly into my eyes…and see my best friend?

Am I at ease and proud of the person looking back?

Need some help with this? Call me for an appointment to make the process easier.

In the meantime ask yourself:

 

Who DO I want to Be? eg. brave, strong, smart, compassionate, sincere…

Am I BEing that person?

How do this in My Life daily?

Do I have the values, strength of character and qualities that sit well with Me?

Am I Who I want to Be…my True ME?

Then ask Yourself this One Questions to get you on track:

 

“What’s the Next Step?”

 

Then go DO it.

 

This tells your brain that you listen and trust yourself.

Each time you do this it builds Your self confidence and self worth .

So it will then supply the next step, then the next and then next. One step at a time.

Why no more than a step at a time?

 

If you were to imagine 5 years ago you were shown a vision of what you are doing today, how you are living your life…what would you have done? Freaked out? Thought you couldn’t do it?

 

That would be natural…you were yet to grow into the Life you now live.

 

Yet, one step at a time you have evolved, grown, developed and created new understandings, skills and tools that are better ways of doing life. Your life now.

 

You are the Author of your Life.

 

Make it a Life you are proud of.

 

Want some help with this? Contact me for an appointment and make this process easier.

 

Be kind. And True to you,

Deb