Today’s Quote

 

“Everyone has a purpose in life…a unique gift or special talent to give to others. And when we blend this unique talent with service to others, we experience the ecstasy and exultation of our own spirit, which is the ultimate goal of all goals.”

– Deepak Chopra MD, The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success

 

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It IS All About You

It was great to see so many of you over the long weekend taking time to let go of :

 

• Those thoughts and worries that go round and round
• The nagging feelings that tell you something is not quite right and
• Wanting more out of life: a better job, relationship, peace of mind

 

In fact, over the years those who come in for an appointment once every 6 weeks or so report back that they are:

• Happier, healthier and MORE Present in their lives, AND
• A regular appointment prevents the dramas that come up rather than having to fight the fires they create when they do.

 

Because at all times it IS all about YOU.

• Your life,
• Your ways of doing life, making life easier and better so you can THRIVE
• Your ability to live life more easily, purposefully doing what you LOVE doing

 

There is a reason I call my clients the bravest people I know.  A kinesiology session can be confronting as you get to know yourself and let go of the old patterns of doing life so you can find better ways that are more in support of who you are now.

 

Is It My Fault?

 

New clients occasionally remark “ So what you are saying Deb is all this bad stuff is my fault”. First things first. This is a comment made in stress. It’s stressful to be sharing your personal information with a relative stranger. It is stressful to be ‘trying’ new things, like a session. It is stressful to feel stuck and not know what to do. When we do this we can look to blame, to find fault. Whether with others, life or ourselves.

 

Everything we are doing in a clinic session is about marvelling at how amazing you and your brain is at helping you survive. By doing that and building on it by seeking MORE the session is assisting you and your brain to step out of survival mode and  find ways to THRIVE. That’s the no. 1 reason people come to see me.

 

Are You Reacting or Responding?

 

Next, what are perceived as “Bad things” happen in life. It is HOW we REACT or RESPOND that makes the difference. If we react we are in stress and reactions create more stress. When we react we take it personally. That ‘they’ or life are out to ‘get’ us. Then we look to someone to blame, to find fault-even if the ‘enemy’ is our self. We feel we have NO CHOICE, the basis of all stress. More survival mode.

 

When we RESPOND we are in Present time creating solutions. We have a bigger picture on life, we want to RESPOND and be answerable and responsible for our own life, to make things happen. To create the life we are meant to be living. Because RESPONDING to life gets our energy out of stuck and INTO FLOWing and we can use it to see opportunities we would never have previously considered.

 

That’s Solution Orientation. That’s where the energy is. And Kinesiology/ Neuro-training sessions get you there, helping you to let go of the old, negative patterns so you can RESPOND to life by creating new neural pathways in the brain so your default is about having CHOICE. Now that’s RESPONDING to Life.

 

Your Brain IS Amazing

 

It’s important to remember how amazing Your brain is. Everything you have ever thought, every emotion you have ever felt, every enzyme reaction, every hormone response, every action EVERYTHING since the moment you were conceived is stored in your brain.

 

Anytime your brain detects a threat to your survival, real or otherwise, it scans the files in the brain for times in the past that may be something like the situation you are currently in. It then recalls and activates the old survival mode because it has worked in the past. How does it know it worked? You are living proof it worked. You survived.

 

The thing is, now you may no longer be 3years old or 6 or 15 or 25 years old when the pattern was created. The situation and you have changed. So the old survival pattern/ defence mode may no longer be the best one for NOW.

 

You realise this when you start to feel stuck, to feel like you are hitting your head against a wall, when you feel like you are repeating the same thing time and again except this time it no longer works. The instinctive/ default response is to do anything to takes the pain away. A quick fix often serves as a bandaid that can result in the need for more bandaids. Or can create even bigger problems than where you started.

 

Healing for the Long Term

 

So, where to find a new solution, a new way of doing life? To create long term health, to become the person you want to Be, living the life you want to be living at 50, 60, 70, 80, years of age starts with NOW. The way you look at and respond or react to life NOW. How you live Your life NOW. It takes commitment to a process of finding out about You.

 

With kinesiology/neuro-training we are assisting your brain to recalibrate the old patterns to new, better ones that work for you NOW and help you to get to where you want to be…a more fulfilling job, relationship, family, lifestyle. With peace of mind, calm, purposeful, joyful, worthy, trusting, enthusiasm, confident. And SO much more!

 

The brain heals you layer by layer, step by step. Unless you truly believe miracles are possible AND know you are worthy of a miracle in your life (both things we can work on),  if I was to wave a magic wand and your life changed instantly to the life you want… you would gradually change it to create the life you have now (with maybe a little improvement).

 

The brain is funny that way. There is plenty of research (anecdotal and otherwise) around people who have won the lottery and 12 months after their win are in debt (often to the same amount that they won) or have spent it all and are more unhappy than they were the day before they won it. The brain in survival mode (aka Stress) brings us back to what we know, what we find familiar.

You Learning More About You

 

Because I attract clients who are curious and want to understand themselves better, during a session I explain the patterns that are out of balance as we bring patterns back into balance. Patterns such as meridian energy….pathways of energy through the body that affect your health and energy levels, emotional patterns, fears, habits or beliefs that have helped you survive but are now slowing or stopping your progress.

 

It’s a wonderful process to experience. Noticing how clever your brain was to create these patterns that helped you survive and how easy it can be to let them go and find new and better ways, as you seek and commit to thriving Now.

 

With kinesiology we can detect what age you created the pattern, how you changed it’s healthy flow (eg. through the way you think and feel about a situation) and then bring it back into balance at the time you created it.

 

This then releases the energy to reveal the next ‘survival’ pattern blocking you from thriving…like the fear spiral, imbalance in the 9 Intelligences or glandular/ hormonal imbalance, suppression, emotional patterns, chakra imbalance, negative habits or outmoded beliefs, etc.

 

We find the imbalance through the basis to all kinesiology: muscle monitoring, which is what I am doing when my hand is on your arm. Or as I explain to the kids ‘we are using your arm muscle like a search engine to Google what’s going on and to find out what Your brain’s solution to it is”. Then we do it. All at the age you created the pattern.

 

So when your brain returns to Present time at the end of the session it brings with it the new patterns that are in support of you and the way you want to be living and enjoying your life moving forward.

 

And it all starts with Recuperation. In fact we are always recuperating from life, each night we go to sleep to take the learnings and make sense of the day before we step into a new day. Remember the last time you started a new job? Dreaming about it all night until it became ‘auto-pilot’. This is recuperation.

 

As a context/theme for a session Recuperation helps you to:

• Find the energy to create a pathway to healing
• Use the energy to finish the unfinished business so that you can start to live your new life on a solid foundation.

 

Others have reported getting more done, like housework, repairs, projects and their In tray – most importantly – with greater efficiency, clearer thinking and ease.

Others report feeling “lighter and better”, others nothing at all. They are all important reasons to return to complete the process of Recuperation, by attending the follow-up sessions (it’s the only time I nag you to come back) to release the energy the brain and body needs to heal itself and reconfigure your inner GPS so you can more easily move TOWARD living the Life you want.

 

 

One Step at a Time

 

As with all things in life, this is a process that happens all in the right order- according to your brain and it’s finely tuned principles of healing. Just like building a house, or a career, travelling for adventure or purpose, creating the family you want- it all takes time, one step after another…as you finish the unfinished and you release the energy to start the next stage of the project.

 

The brain creates the next stage or challenge 3-4 weeks later when working with the context of Recuperation and 4-6 weeks later when integrating any of the other hundreds of contexts/themes we can work with. When you are out of Recuperation you can set the GPS in your brain to move toward creating your Positive Future, Solution Orientation, Positive Change, Long Term Healing, Infusing Positives, Supportive Beliefs, Integration , Energy, Motivation just to name a few.

 

They are all ways of living Your life with focus and in the positive.

 

Healing Your Life…it’s a Grand Adventure

 

It’s a beautiful thing for me to watch and for you to experience walking away from a session feeling lighter and with greater clarity. Life then unfolds situations that will allow you to finish the unfinished business and continue the healing process without you having to think consciously about it.

 

And if you choose to focus on doing so, you can find old arguments and grudges are discussed and resolved with civility, old relationships no longer working now change or let go, things that need to get done get done more easily..

 

Over the years I have collected many stories about Recuperation. One lad in his 30’s called after his Recuperation session and as with many calls I receive he started with “Deb you wouldn’t believe…” He had heard from an old girlfriend through Facebook. They’d had no contact since their split over a decade before. He had felt sad and guilty all this time for the way he had treated her and the way they broke up. He discovered she was happily married, in an amazing job and thrilled to see he was in a good place too. She saw the events and actions he had been whipping himself differently. What a waste of a decade! When they discussed these things and more,  his new understandings cleared the misperception around the relationship. When he came in for his follow-up to recuperation appointment he reported how a burden had been lifted and the experience had allowed him to heal. As a result 4 others ( ex-friends, girlfriends and even an ex-boss) all contacted him in various ways, misunderstandings clarified, and a new relationship with his new value of himself started to grow.

 

So when you start a healing process with kinesiology/neuro-training it’s a bit like an adventure. You may think you know what you want and how to get there, then by seeking the wisdom of your innate intelligence, your brain, it can fine tune it, better it, find solutions unique to You. That places you in a much better space that you could have imagined when you started. That’s one of the reasons why they say healing is a journey.

 

My Commitment to You

 

My focus, my enthusiasm and my commitment to You comes from helping you find Your True Authentic Self, so you can LIVE Your Best Life with Quality of Spirit.

 

The rewards awaiting you are better than you can imagine right now. It is my honour and pleasure to remind you as often as needed that they are there with your True Self and Best Life and Quality of Spirit waiting for You. It’s time you step through the gateway to the rest of Your life.

 

Looking forward to seeing you in clinic, a class or workshop soon.

 

All my best always,

Deborah

 

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Kinesiology for Kids

“It didn’t even cross my mind that my 5 year old son would benefit from seeing Deb as I just didn’t realise that kinesiology would be so relevant for kids. Deb thankfully mentioned it in passing to me and my son now not only loves to see Deb but is now reminding family, friends and I how to stay balanced and happy. He now calls himself the master of happiness and head holds and breathes regularly and ultimately has increased focus and immunity. Brilliant. Thanks Deb x”

 

Children set up the same emotional/ mental/ physical and energetic as adults and are less attached to keeping them…so they shift their stress and their habits, moods and other ‘defence patterns’ often a whole lot more easily and quickly.

 

Children can exhibit all sorts of patterns that can reveal themselves as travel sickness, bedwetting, biting/tantrums, emotional/energetic sensitivity and sleeping problems other times it can create problems at school….lack of focus, difficulty with comprehension, memory storage and recall, or making/ keeping friends and fears of failing/ succeeding. And we work with all of this in clinic to create happy, healthy, balanced children. All great reasons to make an appointment.

 

Over the years I have had the pleasure of meeting and working with some remarkable little people from in-utero through to babies, toddlers, infants, pre-school and school kids- to big kids like yourself!

 

Sometimes, the best thing you can do for your children is to show them how to look after themselves by looking after yourself. As Pene emailed:

 

“Thanks to Deborah’s work, at times of low energy I have found a renewed vitality and hence commitment to mothering myself and my children. I am always grateful for Deb’s acceptance of children being present as I usually have my two girls in tow who I know benefit by seeing my change. The sessions have allowed each of our family members to individually be supported through a process of change and setting healthy coping strategies. The practical grounding of Deborah’s work agrees with our ideas of being present – in life, in our family and within ourselves.”

 

Just as with adults, kinesiology/ neuro-training honours the uniqueness of each child and assists them to become their happy, healthy, amazing true selves. AND we have a whole lot of fun doing it!

 

“My boys have a great time going to see Deb. She has a way of connecting with them that brings something else out in them – and the results afterwards have been quite amazing to see. I’ve been amazed each time at her communication with them. It’s been a delight seeing more gems in them unfold with Deb” Julie

 

And it happens at home too! One of the funniest sms’ I have received was from Janine, mother of twin 3 year old boys, “So cool, putting the boys to bed and James says, ‘Mum, can we do deep breath in and noisy breath out?” He wanted to head hold. The 3 of us doing it together and Lucas starts giggling and says ‘Are you guys crazy!”

 

What I love most when working with children is watching their true nature reveal itself as the fears, worries and blocks dissolve. A child comfortable and happy in themselves, achieving the results they deserve is truly a joy to behold. For everyone involved. As Craig explains:

 

“Deborah’s work has provided illumination on the characters and qualities of our children enabling me to be a better more compassionate father who adjusts my parenting to each of our children’s needs.”

I’ll leave the last word with 5 years old Bella,

“Deb helps me feel good when I head hold and breathe.”