It’s Time to Rescue Your New Year’s Resolutions
Today’s Quote
“A goal without an action plan is a daydream”
– Nathaniel Branden
It’s Time to Rescue Your New Year’s Resolutions
We are now midway through February and I just have to ask…How are Your New Years Resolutions coming along? Are you on track or did they get derailed by work and the people you love? “Other Priorities”?
NOW is the time to remind yourself who’s life you are living. THEN you have more energy for those you love and the other priorities.
How? When you SHOW support and follow through on your promises your brain loves it…it does more for You! It changes the ways you think and feel about yourself positively and in support of You and life. And you get healthier and have more energy!
The question is, as well as your New Year Resolution, where else are you offering yourself empty promises? Every time you make a promise with yourself Like “I’ll get up at 6am tomorrow and go jogging” or “ I will give up chocolate for a month starting Monday” and you don’t follow through with action your brain stops believing in you.
So when you want to make a decision or get a gut reaction or listen to your intuition you can feel confused and out of balance because your brain (from previous experience) is committed to follow through for others rather than yourself.
You have taught your brain to be committed to following through for your Boss because you do that repeatedly and put a lot of emotion (often fear) and energy into making sure you do it.
You have hardwired your brain to step beyond the call of duty for your Mum, Dad, kids, partner and friends…because you have done so repeatedly and consistently.
And you wonder why you feel badly about yourself, feel under-appreciated, taken for granted and with no energy for yourself? You have hardwired your brain by repeated thoughts, emotions and actions to put others before yourself so that when they ask your automated REACTION is “yes” even though you might be in the middle of something very important to you.
Sound familiar?
The Good News is we can change that. We can give You your Life back, so you can CHOOSE to RESPOND to the requests rather than REACT on automatic default mode.
Remember, even Mother Theresa made the CHOICE to help the others. .
So, NOW is the time to CHOOSE to take RESPONSIBILITY for making your vision of a better life a reality. When you take responsibility you can RESPOND in the MOMENT, you can make CHOICES that are POSITIVE and in SUPPORT of You and Your goals.
This starts with creating a strategy. Remember: Foresight = Vision + Strategy. Start by writing down your vision and the strategy as you see it now. This assists you to get your goal more easily.
Do you now ask “What’s the first step in this strategy?” Or do you say to yourself “ I don’t know where to start?”, “I’m stuck”…because that’s exactly what your brain is giving you. More “I don’t know”, more stuck.
So ASK…What is the Next Step? Then DO it!! Act!!
This means that you take the vision, you ask ‘What is the next step?” and You DO it. Usually it’s a little step then another and another. Toward where and who you want to be.
If you ignore the next step? It nags. And nags. It becomes procrastination (if only Hamlet knew that!), self sabotage and fuels the self defeating thoughts and feelings streaming through your body draining you of energy. Argh!
The difference is- what are You going to DO to move toward where you want to be? Who You want to BE? Well, the easier response would be to go DO the Next Step so you can get on with living.
Remember: “What is the Next Step?” keeps us moving TOWARD our vision making our goals a reality.
Most often though we have buried the next step under all those negative feelings/ thoughts/ habits so we forget what the next step was.
That’s a good time to come in for an appointment. So you can find clarity and focus again and the energy to get back on track.
When you have a vision of yourself of climbing Your mountain – whatever that maybe- of receiving an award, the kiss of a beloved one, the recognition of a job well done it rarely comes with the moment to moment challenges, the one-step-in-front-of- another-choices of everyday toward that vision that help us get there.
“ The first step binds one to the second.” French Proverb
Yet every vision has a first step, then another, then another. Some are clearer than others, others reveal themselves – they become a part of the process of you moving toward Your vision.
Other steps, other resources drop away when they are no longer in support of Your Vision. This is a natural part of the cycles of life, yet we hang on, hold tightly to people, habits and ways of thinking that we have outgrown…and struggle with maintaining something where the energy has dropped out.
Another good reason to book and come in for an appointment.
Remember it is Your vision. No one elses. So unless the people around you have achieved their vision, it is rare they will understand the nagging, aching, committed reality you have to Your vision.
Because it is YOUR Vision. Commit to Your Vision. Take RESPONSIBILITY for it’s positive outcome.
An athlete spends years of focus and moment to moment choices (often from childhood) to win a race. An Opera singer’s voice matures at 40 years of age…
That’s a lot of daily practice and choices toward their vision! Performers often joke that it took them 30 years to become an “overnight success”.
One step in front of another…asking “ Is this drawing me toward my vision, or does it pull me away?”
When I was about 10 years of age I had a vision for what I wanted to be when I grew up. I am doing it now. The same sense I received then still deeply resonates inside me daily… in clinic with clients and running workshops and classes. It is for all of this and more that I chose over 20 years ago to study kinesiology. It took a lot of searching to find, then one step after another through my own quagmires and years of toxic muddy workplaces always seeking and often succeeding to light a spark in others about their own vision and ability to Live it.
And here I am living the life I am meant to. My heart sings.
And that is precisely how the Living Life Passionately workshop came about. In my corporate life I was training my staff to create the life they were REALLY wanted, using kinesiology techniques. And guess what? Their productivilty improved, they were happier and sick leave dropped. They were move TOWARD their vision, and are now living them. Along with hundreds of clients who have attended the Living Life Passionately workshop since 2005.
Living Life Passionately is living Your Life, Your Vision with Love, Commitment and Purpose. Your Vision adds meaning to Your Life. By DO – ing it!
Now is the time to find Your vision, take responsibility for making it happen, create the strategy, clear what’s blocking it, and one step after another make your vision a reality.
And that’s a REALLY good reason to come in for an appointment or to Living Life Passionately!
Looking forward to seeing you in clinic, a workshop or class soon.
All the best always,
Deb
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A 2 Minute Story
“Hi Deb, You always send through words of wisdom, I thought this little story was good enough to share. Regards, Amanda
A young lady confidently walked around the room while leading and explaining stress management to an audience with a raised glass of water. Everyone knew she was going to ask the ultimate question, ‘half empty or half full?’… She fooled them all …. “How heavy is this glass of water?” she inquired with a smile.
Answers called out ranged from 200g to 600g.
She replied, “The absolute weight doesn’t matter. It depends on how long I hold it. If I hold it for a minute, that’s not a problem. If I hold it for an hour, I’ll have an ache in my right arm.
If I hold it for a day, you’ll have to call an ambulance. In each case it’s the same weight, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes.”
She continued, “and that’s the way it is with stress. If we carry our burdens all the time, sooner or later, as the burden becomes increasingly heavy, we won’t be able to carry on.”
“As with the glass of water, you have to put it down for a while and rest before holding it again. When we’re refreshed, we can carry on with the burden – holding stress longer and better each time practiced.
So, as early in the evening as you can, put all your burdens down. Don’t carry them through the evening and into the night… Pick them up tomorrow.”
Thank you for sharing this story Amanda.