It’s Time to Celebrate the Dads!

I see so many amazing dads and step dads in clinic and workshops…wanting to be their best selves, learning to leave the office at the office and BE PRESENT in the lives of their children and BE positive, loving role models.

 

To those of you celebrating Fathers’ Day this Sunday, please take time to:

1. Be grateful for the Fathering/ Male Energy that has influenced you to be the type of Father you are…either by showing you how or how not to do it

2. Consider that the power of influence is subtle and comes with true presence of BEing with the children in your life.

 

Want some help with that? An extra tool in your tool box?

 

2 Step Exercise to Be MORE Present with Your Kids…

 

This is actually an exercise for everyone to do daily…

 

It’s the Dad’s in particular that report back this exercise is VERY rewarding. It’s also a great way to reward Values that are important to you.

 

AND it’s great to do at bedtime for a great night sleep!
Everything You do in this exercise, get the Kids to do…

 

Step One: Start with head holding and breathing at Bedtime

Drink some water – roll it around your mouth then swallow.

Take a 2^nd mouthful as normal and swallow.

Place your full palm across your forehead

Place your other hand across the “bumpy bit” at the base of your skull (where your head joins your neck.)

This Breathing Technique: takes you to a deeper relaxation more easily and quickly….

Through your nose if you can…Breathe in for 4, hold for 2, Out for 4, Hold for 2.

Repeat this cycle 9 times.

Clients tell me that by the 3rd rep they want to kill me or stop doing the exercise.

By the 6^th rep  they are glad they persevered but still want to stop.

By the 9th rep you ‘get it’…calm, present and clarity returns.

 

Step Two: The Proud and Gratitude Exercise…

 

Now that the brain is Present…and in bed wanting to go to sleep it is starting to do that, ASK your child/ren…

 

Dad:”What is two/ three things you have done today that you are Proud of?”
It could be “helped Mummy”, “Was nice to …”, “ cleaned my room”… etc

 

This could also be the time to ask “What is one thing you are most grateful for?”

 

Dad: “How did you feel when you did that? Is it worth a hug? Yay!”
BIG Self Hug first: This helps you teach your child to do what makes them feel good on the inside first- what raises their spirit up.

 

So when they get into those tricky situations with their friends later, or around strangers they KNOW what’s right and wrong. From the inside out.

 

Then BIG family hug.

 

WARNING: Be ready to answer the question “What have You done today that you’re proud of Daddy?” BE honest- they can feel it when you are bluffing, and it will negate all the good work you are doing here.

 

Practice daily.

 

The Proud Exercise keeps us moving toward the type of person we want to be, doing what that person would do.

 

Which is why it is a great thing for EVERYONE to do!

 

Happy Fathers’ Day Dad’s! Thankyou for Being the Dad You are Proud to BE!

 

All the best always,

BE true to you,

Deb